Ladies, You Need to Follow Your Arrow

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Have you ever had a moment in your life when you realize, I mean deeply and terrifyingly realize, that you’ve gone way off track?  You knew who you were at one point in your life, but the person inhabiting your body now is foreign to you.  Mama always said to not talk to strangers and yet, somehow, you’re that stranger.

I would look at my hands and think, “Yes, these are Taylor’s hands.”  I would hear myself speak and think, “Yes, this is Taylor’s voice.”  But I examined the life I was living and thought, “Who the hell is this woman?”

This important, yet freaky realization typically comes at rock bottom.  The end of your rope.  Fortunately, that’s the same spot where inspiration typically comes knocking.  For me, inspiration peaked its head around the corner in the form of a Facebook photo quote a couple years ago.  This exact one:

Follow Your Arrow

 

Arrow.  Focus.  Launch.  Aim.  These words resonated with me, so I latched on to them.  There was something there for me in the midst of the muck.  I was backward, and I was being dragged by difficulties.  So the thought of being launched into something great was fine by me!!

Enter Kasey Musgraves.  About the same time as my “Who Am I?” meltdown, the country singer published this tune called “Follow Your Arrow.”  It goes like this:

If you save yourself for marriage
You’re a bore
If you don’t save yourself for marriage
You’re a whore-able person
If you won’t have a drink
Then you’re a prude
But they’ll call you a drunk
As soon as you down the first one

If you can’t lose the weight
Then you’re just fat
But if you lose too much
Then you’re on crack
You’re damned if you do
And you’re damned if you don’t
So you might as well just do
Whatever you want
So

(Chorus) Make lots of noise
Kiss lots of boys
Or kiss lots of girls
If that’s something you’re into
When the straight and narrow
Gets a little too straight
Roll up a joint, or don’t
Just follow your arrow
Wherever it points

If you don’t go to church
You’ll go to hell
If you’re the first one
On the front row
You’re self-righteous
Son of a-
Can’t win for losing
You’ll just disappoint ’em
Just ’cause you can’t beat ’em
Don’t mean you should join ’em

(Chorus)

Say what you think
Love who you love
‘Cause you just get
So many trips ’round the sun
Yeah, you only
Only live once

(Chorus)
And follow your arrow
Wherever it points

The song is clever and comical, but it makes an important point.  People want lots of conflicting things from us.  We need to be good, but not too good.  Skinny, but not too skinny.  Educated, but only in the “right” fields.  When we play into that, we start pretending. Before we know it, we get to that point where we don’t even know who we are.

There is so much talk about going out and FINDING yourself.  But I think sometimes we’ve already been found.  Our natural tendencies and desires, the things that make our eyes light up and our hearts beat a little more quickly – we know those things deep down, or at least we have an inkling. Maybe it’s not only about finding the pieces of who we are; maybe we also need to drop the pieces of who we are not.  What’s left is your arrow.

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My “Arrow” came to represent the real, deep, nitty-gritty Taylor and all my dreams and plans – minus the pretending and role-playing.  Lo and behold, once I started following that arrow, I found out that my life was really interesting TO ME, and I genuinely loved it.

It is THIS concept that has urged me on to create The Interesting Project.  I’m getting close to launching a workbook that helps young women (18-30ish) follow their own arrows by pursuing interesting lives that THEY love. As part of this project, I will also offer free goodies, some blog posts, and newsletters to aid in the process.

I know what it’s like to forget about your arrow. I know what it’s like to be pulled backward from life’s difficulties. But I also know what it’s like when you follow that arrow and really start pursuing an interesting life you love. THAT is what I want for my fellow ladies.

If you are a young woman wanting to move from thinking about your dreams into LIVING your dreams, The Interesting Project will be for you.  Please subscribe to my new newsletter right here, and you will be updated as soon as The Interesting Project Workbook and all the other cool stuff is available.

Remember, my friends, your arrow is there. Follow it wherever it points!

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25 thoughts on “Ladies, You Need to Follow Your Arrow

    • November 4, 2015 at 1:09 pm
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      She’s one of my FAVS!

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  • November 4, 2015 at 7:42 am
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    What a fantastic post! Self discovery can be hard. I went to a bible studies series last year called “Stuck” and it really changed me. It was all about how we as women sometimes just feel stuck in our situations, our lack of purpose. I feel like finding purpose is an ever-evolving journey!

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    • November 4, 2015 at 1:10 pm
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      It sure is an ever-evolving journey!!! Keeps life interesting 😉

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  • November 4, 2015 at 8:20 am
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    I love this! Really struck me because I think finding yourself is such a hard but important journey. Plus I love Kacey Musgraves :)

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    • November 4, 2015 at 1:11 pm
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      Yes! Hard and important!! Kacey Musgraves is amazing!!

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    • November 4, 2015 at 1:11 pm
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      Thanks Angie!

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  • November 4, 2015 at 9:41 am
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    super cute song! What a great message.

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    • November 4, 2015 at 1:11 pm
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      Isn’t it so cool?!

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  • November 4, 2015 at 2:29 pm
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    I love this message! Such a great reminder and motivator to keep your eye in the prize and do what’s best for you!

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    • November 5, 2015 at 11:07 am
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      Yes yes – eye on the prize!!! Love that!

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    • November 5, 2015 at 11:07 am
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      Thanks, Jessica! You should check out her other music – she’s a really clever songwriter!

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    • November 5, 2015 at 11:07 am
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      Thanks so much Erica! You’re the sweetest!

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  • November 4, 2015 at 7:03 pm
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    I love this post (and this song… which I’m going to download. now.)

    Sometimes following your arrow is hard, but screw it, its yours right?

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    • November 5, 2015 at 11:08 am
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      I LOVE LOVE LOVE that!!

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    • November 5, 2015 at 11:08 am
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      Thanks so much Cindy! Hugs!

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  • November 4, 2015 at 9:03 pm
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    As I’m reading that first paragraph I’m going, “me, me, me!” Now that life is slowing down a little I’m not sure which way is up anymore, or who this person is who has invaded Emily’s body. But you’re right…the only way is up! I’m so excited for “The Interesting Project!”

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    • November 5, 2015 at 11:09 am
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      I SO understand that, my friend. You will figure it out! Sending love and hugs!!! :)

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    • November 5, 2015 at 11:09 am
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      Thanks, sweet friend!! Missing you!!!

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