Let me introduce you to Katie Visconti. You know when you get lucky enough to meet somebody and think “She sees the world like I see the world” and instantly you have a sense of peace wash over you? That’s how it was when I met Katie. She loves writing, reading, beautiful things, and being ambitious. She is passionate about women and the justice and joy they deserve. She has a travel bug and a wanderlust. And we seem to see God in a similar light – a lover of human beings. I adore Katie and her writing. When I begged her to let me share some of that writing here, she graciously agreed! Her thoughts on self-love are so important, enjoy! -Tay
On Thursday, I sat in my Creative Writing class, eager to get started, just waiting for my professor to say what our assignment would be.
School is hard, I’ve been going through a particularly dark season lately, and I find myself constantly holding on to tiny moments of light.
My creative writing class being ones of those bright, beaming moments.
My professor began to tell us about our free write for the day: What is the most important moment in a child’s life.
You could run with this in one hundred directions. So I found myself racking my brain, “Can I write about any child? Should I recount my childhood? Maybe I should write this for my future daughter or son? What do I remember as a huge moment of my childhood life?”
We’ve got ten minutes for the prompt. Nine minutes left after I begin to think about what direction to go in. I panic, naturally. How does one write something decent in eight minutes and 44, 43, 42 seconds?
Write your truth. The though came in a soft but strong whisper.
So I did.
Free Write #4
For the child yet to grow big and tall, for the child being wished for & prayed for, yet to be in a mommy’s tummy, for the child that is already having a difficult time navigating the world, and for the child that still shines brightly in all of us, this is for you.
If I could tell you one thing, there are going to be many important moments in your life. There’s going to be a time when you discover how to walk, talk, run, and ride a bike. You’re going to have a time where you love so wildly, and your heart pitter patters when you have your first crush. There is going to be a time where you feel a little embarrassed, and when you are mad at someone who cares for you. I hope you don’t have too many moments of sadness of defeat. And if you do, I hope you have double the amount of moments that bring you happiness and laughter.
You are going to have moments that reveal your passion. You are going to have a favorite food, favorite friend, favorite book, favorite time of day.
You are going to have lots of moments, but I know the most important one, for me at least, is the moment you realize that loving yourself is essential to really loving and appreciating all of life’s other moments.
Loving yourself, and realizing you are a gifted individual that adorns that world, is the most important moment.
The moment you stop allowing yourself to nitpick over flaws, or wish you had a different nose, mouth, hip size, hair color. The moment you notice the way your eyes sparkle, or that no one else will ever be like you. The moment you realize the entire world and everyone you have ever interacted with would not be the same without you.
That moment may seem fleeting at times, and there may be hours and days that you don’t feel so in love with yourself, but I can promise you: this body, this mind, this heart of yours needs to run on self-love. You deserve to love yourself.
As children, we are too often judged on standards that are set for everyone. We are too often told that talent, smarts, and ability is based on a one size fits all scale.
The moment you love yourself, you love the fact that you could never really play basketball but could write poetry, or could barely handle public speaking but could handle calculus. For me, loving myself meant I finally accepted that I would never be the girl that could stay still, or not question, or make it through a day without reading and writing something.
If I would have known that the only thing that would bring me to a place of forgiveness, adventure, new opportunities, and acceptance was self-love, I would have granted myself that moment a long time ago.
That moment is now.